According to Merriam-Webster, the word forgive is defined as:
: to stop feeling anger toward (someone who has done something wrong) : to stop blaming (someone)
: to stop feeling anger about (something) : to forgive someone for (something wrong)
So here is my question:
Have you ever truly forgiven anyone for doing you wrong? Or do you say you have forgiven them, but throw the transgression back in their face every time you get angry?
I don’t like to carry around ill feelings about the people in my life. So if I tell you that I’ve forgiven you, I have. When I told my husband that I had forgiven him for cheating on me, I meant it. I don’t use it against him whenever I’m upset with him or whenever we fight, which isn’t all that often anymore actually… it’s weird lol. Do I still think about it? Sure! Forgiving ain’t forgetting. But I no longer let the emotions from that event control me or my actions. I have let it go, I forgave him.
What does forgiveness mean to you? Are you capable of such an act?
This is an interesting question! I forgive but I never forget. So I guess I have never truly forgiven anyone even though I do not pass my time throwing their transgressions in their face. I do not think I can fully forgive because after a transgression I will need to have my guard up. Better yet, I probably wouldn’t even stick around after being cheated on. What for?
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Not forgetting is how you protect yourself from it happening again. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, it means letting go of the anger. At least that is how I look at it. You know what? I never thought I’d stick around after being cheated on either. You never really know what you can live with until you have to. At first I didn’t want to stay, but it wasn’t just about me. We had a son and relationship that was about 12 years old. Hard to just walk away. Anyway, thanks for your comment :).
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I have nothing keeping me and a person together right now so I have no issues with walking away from the situation.
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Understood.
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Yeah but when/if the situation changes we’ll see. Hopefully we don’t even have to go there though.
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