Do you ever wonder if you have done enough for your children? Done too much?
My childhood was shitty, to say the least. My goal has always to give my son all that I never had. An endless amount of love, two parents that loved and wanted him, and happiness. At the very least all children should be loved.
In the age of the ungrateful child, I worry about mines. I watched my middle niece grow into a mean, ungrateful woman who acted as if the world owed her something when she never actually wanted for anything. She has a bad case of “memeitis“. Now, granted my sister wasn’t the best Mom, in my eyes, but she was the best Mom for those kids. We all have our own quirks and I’m sure some would think the same about me. Including me.
I worry that I’ve done too much for him sometimes. I love my baby, but he’s lazy lol. Is it my fault he’s lazy? One of the things I always wanted as a child was someone to take care of me. I didn’t have someone to take care of me, I was mostly left to fend for myself. So I overcompensate with my son. I do almost everything for him. Happily. However, I worry that I do too much. He will do things when I ask him to do them, like empty the dishwasher, sort his laundry, or clean his room. But he doesn’t have chores so to speak. There are times when I feel like I shouldn’t have to ask. If you see something needs to be done, just do them. But this is how things have always been so…
He’s 16 almost 17 years old. He will be gone and on his own before I know it. Am I helping to prepare him for that? Am I handicapping him? I worry about that every day. He’s a great kid. I couldn’t have asked for a better kid. But that doesn’t stop me from worrying about him. I protect him with one hand and push him forward with the other.
Has there ever been a time that you worry that you do too much for your kids? Do you worry about what effect that will have on them later in life?