If you had to come up with one question, the answer to which would determine whether or not you could be friends with a person you’ve just met, what would it be? What would the right answer be?
I don’t know if I have any one question that could determine that I could be friends with a person. In the words of House, “People Lie.” I tend to judge the basis of a friendship on a person’s personality. Whether or not we click. Whether or not I like the person on a personal level. Sometimes you don’t know that right away, it may take a visit or two.
For example, my husband’s ex-1SG. I found him annoying off top, still do, however the first time I met his wife I actually liked her. Until I got to spend a little time with her one on one. Then I realized she was a hypochondriac that would do anything for attention. For example, she went out to eat seafood, knowing she was allergic, after having left her Epi-pen back in North Carolina. Keep in mind we were in Colorado. Then she wanted pity for having to be in the hospital following her little adventure at the seafood restaurant. Uh… no. Needless to say we are not friends. I am not super judgy, I just don’t need any extra drama in my life.
That said… there is no magic question, I just have to wait and see.